Look through my post so that you get an understanding of what the bigger picture really is. Damon has changed and growth because of his love for Elena. And Elena has always seen that there is good inside him despite everything he has done. That’s the bigger picture. When you truly love someone you aren’t so okay with them possibly dying just because it is there choice. Elena’s love for Damon is completely real so why the quotation marks? The sire bond was never as negative as everyone made it out to be. It was there to plant doubt, and to give hope to Stelena fans and that is all. Elena’s love was proven real in the end… so that is no reason not to ship them.
Oh please don’t get started with Damons growth because I see none. Throughout the seasons he has been the same. It blows my mind that Elena can overlook the fact that Damon killed Jeremy, traumatized her friends, and slept with her mom. Like really??? So like I said before, let’s just drop it because no matter what we say it won’t change our minds about our ships.
LOL. Don’t even bother with this one. This is the same person who believes that when Elena said “of all the choices I’ve made, this will prove to be the worst” she was talking about the cure and not choosing Damon. Bahahaha. Talk about living in a DElusional world. Also the main thing that she said in that post was “Soulmates my ass…Once again I’m right and all you SErs are just wrong… Completely wrong.” Whether or not Katherine can see the same dreams because of the doppelganger connection (of course Kat is part of the doppelganger connection because she too is a Petrova doppelganger), that doesn’t take away from the fact that Stelena ARE soulmates. Doppelganger connection or not, they are soulmates. That has been said time and time again in both the books and the show. So how about not jumping the gun with the immature 12 yr old acts of “na na na na boo boo I was right you were wrong” until we actually see how everything plays out on the show. This doppelganger thing is a major storyline of the season and that synopsis is only for Ep 3. We have no idea what is going to happen down the road. The most important thing to remember is that no matter what happens with Stelena, Delena WILL crash and burn. That’s something to be happy about.
When people say Damon grew into some kind of new version I’m baffled. All I see is a Damon PRETENDING to be somewhat of poor Stefan version so he can get into Elena’s pants. None of this shit is real, Damon is Damon and Elena wont change that. No OBESSION for anyone will cahnge that. Only if he changes FOR HIMSELF because he actually SEES what is wrong or right, is when it matters. I saw glimpses of that after Bonnie called him out on his shit in 3x20. But that’s all. Glimpses. Not long ago, he attacked an innocent human being (Matt) who is Elena’s closest friend and who she died for to keep save, yet he goes and attacks him. Not long ago, he attacked Caroline because she did not want him to kill her father. Not long ago, he said it doesnt matter to him if Tyler dies, and he’s gladly take the odds. Not long ago people judged Stefan for making Jeremy kill a remorseless murderer but it was OK when Damon made Jeremy kill innocents. This fandom and their fucking favourtism. Look at the outtaken scenes and see how poorly he treats Jeremy. And you guys see a bromance in this. it’s so laughable. Elena didnt change shit about Damon. He wasnt even sorry for Stefan when he had to leave his own house because the love of his life let Damon into her vagina. I’m outraged.
You obviously are only seeing what you want to see. Damon has grown and changed not into a new version but he had come for since the writer’s introduced to him in Season 1… and the writers make that evident at the end of it.
"You know I came to this town wanting to destroy it and tonight I found myself wanting to protect it”. -Damon
This in itself shows how far Damon has come since he was introduced to us… and you can’t just ignore that because you don’t like him. Whether this evolution, this change, this caring about people is solely for Elena’s sake because he’s in love with her, or because he just genuinely cares about them for himself isn’t important. What’s important is that he isn’t like that anymore. Did he murder people? Yes. Did he hurt Elena’s loved ones? Yes. But ever since he fell for Elena he has tried to protect them. He saved Caroline three times in season 2. He gave her his blood so that she wouldn’t died in the hospital in the beginning of Season 2. He didn’t kill her mom after she tried to kill them. He helped went and tried to help rescue her from Jules and the other warewolves. He pushed Tyler away from her and got bitten in the process in order to protect her. He even helped Bonnie find a way to survive in 2x18. Would he choose Elena over Bonnie? Sure. Would he choose Elena over anyone? Absolutely. Because he is in love with her and thats what you do with the person your in love with… you fight for them to live especially went they have some sort of martyr complex.
He isn’t trying to pretend to be anything like Stefan, and the fact that you said shows just a little you pay attention to the Delena scene.
"I am not Stefan! How about you stop trying to turn me into him" - Damon 3x04
Now, just because you’ve grown doesn’t mean that you are never going to make mistakes ever again. Yes. Attacking Matt at that beginning of season 4 was wrong of him. He was angry and heartbroken and he was taking out on the completely wrong person. He was right to be some what angry with Matt because if it wasn’t for him, Elena would have never been in that car but he wasn’t right to attack him the way that he did. His growth is shown through Matt throughout season 4. He hears him out at the end of 4x06 and helps Jeremy protect him after Klaus screwed him over. If he hadn’t grown he wouldn’t have gave Matt his time of day or cared that Klaus put Matt in danger.
You are just completely wrong about the scene where Caroline and Damon fight in 3x04. Damon didn’t attack Caroline because she did not want him to kill her father. He attacked her father because he didn’t leave and was threatening to out him to the council, which would have put Caroline in danger as well btw. Then, Caroline attacked him and he stopped, and she tells him to leave and he says ‘or what?’ and she attacks him again. That pissed him off so that he when he fought back. It had nothing to do with her trying to save her father otherwise he was have attacked her while she was feeding her father blood.
Yes, he didn’t care if Tyler died because he knew that he was on a suicide mission to take down Klaus. Unsiring all the hybrids is one thing. Trying to take down Klaus is completely different. He didn’t care about what his friends (including his girlfriend) were after then why should Damon care about what happens to him?
Damon didn’t make Jeremy kill anyone. His plan was to train him and go hunt for vampires for him to kill. Klaus is the one the stepped in to speed up the process… he would have done this regardless if Damon didn’t agree. Klaus is the one the killed those innocent people and turned them then took it a step further and compelled them all to go attack Matt. That wasn’t what Damon had originally planned… And the main difference between Stefan and Damon is that Damon is always honest with Elena while Stefan tries to keep it from her.
"No matter what lies I have to tell or secrets I have to keep, I’ll do it. No matter what it takes" - Stefan 4x05
"There may be a way out of this for you, Elena, There may be a cure" -Damon 4x06
"Look, I’m going to get this cure for you and I’m going to have to do things you’re not going to like." -Damon
Deleted Scenes are taken out for a reason so why are you even using that in your argument?
Elena is the sole cause to his growth. Damon still may be Damon but he has come a long way because of her.
Stefan was a dick to him when Damon tried to be brotherly and offered to blow everything off and brother bond after he told him that he and Elena broke up. Why should he feel sorry for someone who has never cared about what he wanted?
“I didn’t care that I had gotten something that my brother wanted. I didn’t even care if it hurt him. I only knew that I wanted her." - Stefan 1x06
You shouldn’t be outraged. Stefan was just getting a taste of his own medicine.